Many have chosen silence in response to the growing numbers of police shootings of Black males on the streets –first out of respect for surviving family members, but also because of the circumstances surrounding most of the incidents, as well as current and pending criminal cases and civil litigation.

The increasingly irresponsible public dialogue broadcasted from Black media since the killing of 18-year-old Khiel Coppin will not be tolerated by the community, and in particular, by Black women. The Black community is being put in a dangerous position with "reports" of gang members putting out "code red" alerts. Carrying a message from some Black youth who supposedly say "they are not taking it anymore" is irresponsible. Many adolescent Black males do not know which way is up anyway, due to so many Black men shirking their responsibility to stay in the home to appropriately raise the children they created.

It seems that 40 years later, Black men learned nothing from the Newark uprising, which started as a testosterone-overdose-driven beef between a Black male cab driver and a white male cop, neither of whom had conflict resolution skills. As a result, many Black people were killed, including innocent women and children, and scores were left homeless when the city was virtually burned to the ground. To this day, Newark has not fully recovered.

Black women and children notice how well you quickly ruminate and pontificate your erudite ramifications of shootings and killings of Black males by police. Women also notice the dearth of lengthy public analysis of shootings, killings and callous behavior toward Black women and children at the hands of Black males.

(Ironically, the same arguments against police brutality – abuse of power, they should know better, etc. – are the same arguments Black women can use regarding how they are all too often treated by Black men.) Women see by your behavior and silence your lack of concern for the well-being of Black women and children. This is nothing new. And Black women have let you get away with it for far too long.

Twenty-first century Black women are not taking it anymore. And if you think Black women are going to sit back and quietly allow you to sell "wolf tickets" and open the community to 1960s-style pseudo-insurrections leading to occupation by the National Guard to quell your testosterone-induced whining, leaving us all battered with our lives destroyed, you better think again. We will not just listen to Preparedness Now, the Millions More Movement and the Red Cross, and prepare "go bags" for ourselves and the children. We will give you up and give up on you.

If you think you have all Black women sufficiently on lock-down so that you can continue your community destroying, disorder-creating words and deeds, you better ask somebody. Right in front of your eyes, one by one, your women have been leaving you. This feminine mental and sometimes physical migration reflects dissatisfaction with conditions within the community, and your apparent inability to establish order.

Putting us all at risk with irresponsible rhetoric is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. The whole community is expected to pay because too many Black men do not handle their business? Why should a Black mother have to repeatedly call 911 when her son puts himself and the family in danger. Why not call the father first and, for once, have him handle his son? Didn't we learn anything from Clifford Glover?

And why was there not commensurate media outrage when middle school drop out, 14-year-old Jamal "Sonny" Carter was shot multiple times and killed in Tompkins Projects recently? Where was his father when young Jamal dropped out of middle school? Jamal's mother admitted on television that prior to his shooting death, Jamal asked her for money to buy "weed." What is that about?

Obviously, this mother could not handle an adolescent male child by herself. The myth of the strong Black woman is only an excuse for Black men to shirk their responsibilities to their children, leaving them as prey and predator to the whole community. The silence generated as a result of incidents like Jamal's is frightening.

And please, my brothers, stop saying the reason police shoot Black men is because white men are afraid of you. The internal conditions of our community tell of irrational thinking and behavior, sexism and misogyny, diminishing survival instincts and lack of race pride. What is there to be afraid of?

It seems unilateral complaints about the Police Department have become habitual. Yes, the police are sometimes wrong, but so are many individuals who by their antisocial behavior invite the police in. The complaints against police sometimes reach a point where they sound like fatherless adolescent males who rebel against any male figure who interacts with them. Maybe the solution is to remove the police from the community, or solve the police brutality issue. Neither are likely to happen. But if this nirvana did occur, then what? We as a community will still have shootings and other chaotic situations that cannot be blamed on the police.

Allowing talk show listeners to call in and advocate arming ourselves is not the answer either. We could never obtain enough munitions. Besides, the criminal element among us would be surprised at who law-abiding citizens would turn their guns on. The U.S. Supreme Court is considering a case this year involving a Washington D.C. taxpaying homeowner (who happens to be a Black female) who wants the city ordinance changed so that owning a firearm is legal within city limits for protection from criminals.

If law-abiding citizens could protect themselves in this manner, you wouldn't be able to complain about the police. You wouldn't even need the police.

If New York Police Commissioner Ray Kelly is being disingenuous with the Rand Report (and in violation of a court order regarding stop-and-frisks), so too are his critics. We who live in certain communities know unsavory activities take place. We hope we are not victims to them. We readily call NYPD whenever we are the unlucky ones.

Anyone familiar with monthly Precinct Community Council meetings knows each precinct commander gives a monthly report of crime stats in their jurisdiction to the public. The commander then assures attendees that appropriate personnel will be deployed to "hot spots" based upon reported criminal activity. Police presence is assuring because even the dumbest criminal (usually) will not commit a crime in front of an officer.

Stop-and-frisks are not just based on descriptions of alleged suspects on the one hand, nor unabated racism on the other. If we are honest, crime patterns in our communities play a part.